Dating people chronic pain
Maybe you’ve got circles under your eyes so black you look like you just came from a football game–time to show your date just how sexy you can look in sunglasses. There are millions of things you can do for your partner–from helping them have better relationships with their family and friends, to teaching them about having career goals or handling money and investing, to being a solid parenting partner or emotional caregiver. You will probably end up puking in the back seat of his car.
You’re not the only one with problems, so start looking for places where you can apply yourself as the solution. Don’t pretend like you’re cool, and then turn around and dry heave into your handbag (I have mastered this by the way.) Don’t agree to go to a rock concert when you have a migraine and don’t agree to eat hibachi when you’re on an all-liquid diet. Better to out yourself and your condition early and avoid the consequences.
If someone doesn’t want to be with you, there will be someone else. Will you spend three hours on your hair then realize you need a nap? Your illness will limit a lot of things in your life–but it doesn’t make you any less able to be loved.
And better to be happy, searching for the right one–than miserable and feeling worse about yourself with the wrong one.
Sharing too soon may scare the person off and sharing too late may lead to a lack of trust.
Amber Miller, a 26-year-old college student in Oklahoma City, was waiting to tell Josh about her type one diabetes. So when he didn’t hear from her for a month while she was recovering from a diabetic coma, he expected the worst.“Josh thought I broke up with him because none of my family told him about the coma and he didn’t hear from me for a month,” Miller said.
My sister uses Ok Cupid so that men know she’s a 5’2 nudist with a penchant for folk songs.
If men who are total assholes about nudism and folk songs see her profile proclaiming this both so boldly and so clearly: they don’t message her.
If this number sounds high, it’s worth noting that the category of “chronic illness” can include minor cases of asthma or oral herpes or major conditions like Crohn’s.
Take it from Numero Uno Klutz, Jennifer Laurence–fall on your ass and cry about it, you’ll lose the Oscar.